One would think that when a person is asked what they really, really want in work, in life, in a relationship, that the response would be immediate. Surprisingly, or perhaps, not so surprising, the responses are: silence… or “Let me think for a minute,” or more sadly, “I really don’t take time to think about what I really want, I’m too busy doing.”
Silence or “Let me think for a minute”…
These two are interesting responses. to me, they indicate that the person is stopped short for several reasons.
- Genuinely,they need time to give a thoughtful response because it is important to them.
- Actually, they am afraid to express what they really want
- They need to think about a response that will sound interesting and important enough to share and impress others.
- They don’t trust me and so are not willing to share.
This third response, “I really don’t take time to think about what I really want, I’m too busy doing,” can mean many things, but my mind jumps to the following:
- They are not willing or able to invest thinking time in themselves to fully appreciate what they really want.
- They are not used to stopping all the crazy busyness to think
- They don’t fully understand how import knowing what they really want is to themselves and to others involved with them.
Whatever the reasons or stories we have for not clarifying what we really want, it has become profoundly clearly to me, that this is one of our greatest limiting factors in success in business and joy in life. The more we are clear about what we want, the more likely we are to attract that which we want, whether it be positive or negative, into our life and work.
Please consider finishing this sentence, it might just change your life. What I want out of life is…
Or in the words of Henry David Thoreau….will you “live your life in quiet desperation?”